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September 2024 - 6 minutes read
How to Stop Self-Sabotage: A Path to Self-Empowerment
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, September 30). How to Stop Self-Sabotage: A Path to Self-Empowerment. EBS Project - Charles The Son Holding. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Abstract
Self-sabotage refers to behaviors, thoughts, and emotions that hold individuals back from reaching their goals. It is often driven by unconscious feelings of inadequacy, fear, or unresolved emotional conflict. This article explores the origins of self-sabotaging behavior, the psychological mechanisms behind it, and evidence-based strategies to overcome it. By understanding the role of self-limiting beliefs and developing tools for emotional regulation, individuals can break free from patterns of self-sabotage and unlock their full potential.
Introduction
Self-sabotage is a phenomenon where individuals engage in behaviors that undermine their own success and well-being. It manifests in various forms, from procrastination and self-doubt to substance abuse and interpersonal conflicts. Though it appears irrational, self-sabotage is often rooted in deep-seated psychological patterns and emotional wounds (Herman, 2016). Understanding how to identify and overcome these patterns is essential for personal growth and the achievement of long-term goals.
Psychological Origins of Self-Sabotage
Self-sabotage often stems from early life experiences that lead to the development of maladaptive coping mechanisms. According to cognitive-behavioral theories, negative core beliefs about oneself, such as "I am not good enough" or "I don't deserve success," contribute to self-sabotaging behaviors (Beck, 1995). These beliefs are often reinforced by traumatic or highly stressful experiences in childhood or adolescence, creating a cycle of self-doubt and avoidance. 🥺
Fear is another key driver of self-sabotage. The fear of failure can paralyze individuals, leading them to avoid taking action that might expose them to perceived risks (Kets de Vries, 2011). Ironically, some individuals also fear success, as it may bring additional responsibilities or higher expectations from others, causing them to unconsciously derail their own progress. 😱
Mechanisms of Self-Sabotage
Several mechanisms perpetuate self-sabotaging behaviour, including procrastination, perfectionism, and emotional dysregulation.
Procrastination
Procrastination is one of the most common forms of self-sabotage, characterized by the delay of important tasks despite knowing the negative consequences. This avoidance behavior is often linked to fear—of failure, of success, or of judgment (Steel, 2007). Procrastination allows individuals to temporarily escape uncomfortable emotions but ultimately leads to a loss of productivity and self-esteem.
Perfectionism
Perfectionism, though seemingly positive, can be detrimental. Perfectionists set unrealistically high standards for themselves and others, leading to frustration and dissatisfaction when these standards are not met (Flett & Hewitt, 2002). This can result in either overworking or abandoning tasks altogether, as perfectionists often fear making mistakes or producing anything less than flawless work.
Emotional Dysregulation
Self-sabotage is also linked to difficulties in managing negative emotions, such as anxiety, sadness, or frustration. When individuals are unable to regulate these emotions, they may engage in destructive behaviours, such as substance abuse or self-isolation, to cope with emotional distress (Gratz & Roemer, 2004).
Strategies to Overcome Self-Sabotage
While self-sabotage can feel like an insurmountable obstacle, several strategies grounded in psychological research can help individuals break free from these destructive patterns.
Developing Self-Awareness
The first step in stopping self-sabotage is to recognize its existence. Self-awareness enables individuals to identify the thoughts, behaviors, and emotional triggers that contribute to their self-destructive habits. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques, such as journaling and thought tracking, can help uncover these patterns (Beck, 1995). Mindfulness practices can also enhance awareness by encouraging individuals to observe their thoughts and feelings without judgment (Kabat-Zinn, 2003).
* Consider reading this book: Bradberry, T., & Greaves, J. (2009). Emotional Intelligence 2.0. TalentSmart.
💔 Challenging Negative Beliefs 💔
Cognitive restructuring is an evidence-based approach to challenging and replacing self-limiting beliefs. By identifying irrational thoughts and replacing them with more realistic, empowering beliefs, individuals can begin to shift their mindset (Ellis, 1991). For example, someone who believes "I will fail if I try" can reframe this thought as "I can learn and grow through any outcome."
🎯 Setting Realistic Goals 🎯
Goal-setting is a critical component of overcoming self-sabotage. By setting small, achievable goals, individuals can build confidence and momentum toward larger objectives (Locke & Latham, 2002). Breaking tasks down into manageable steps also reduces overwhelm and the likelihood of procrastination.
💪 Practicing Self-Compassion 💪
Self-sabotage is often fueled by harsh self-criticism. Research shows that practicing self-compassion—treating oneself with kindness and understanding during times of failure—can significantly reduce self-sabotaging tendencies (Neff, 2003). Self-compassion fosters resilience by helping individuals recover from setbacks and maintain motivation.
🔎 Building Emotional Regulation Skills 🔎
Effective emotional regulation involves learning to manage difficult emotions in healthy ways, rather than avoiding or suppressing them. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and emotion-focused coping strategies can help individuals tolerate negative emotions without resorting to self-sabotaging behaviors (Gratz & Roemer, 2004).
Conclusion
Self-sabotage is a complex, multifaceted issue that affects many individuals at various stages of their personal and professional lives. By understanding its origins and mechanisms, individuals can begin to unravel the thought patterns and emotional triggers that drive self-destructive behaviors. The path to overcoming self-sabotage involves developing self-awareness, challenging negative beliefs, setting realistic goals, practicing self-compassion, and building emotional regulation skills. With these strategies, individuals can stop undermining their own success and move toward a more empowered and fulfilling life.
Carlos I. Filho
References
Beck, A. T. (1995). Cognitive therapy: Basics and beyond. Guilford Press.
Bradberry, T., & Greaves, J. (2009). Emotional Intelligence 2.0. TalentSmart.
Ellis, A. (1991). Reason and emotion in psychotherapy. Carol Publishing Group.
Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2002). Perfectionism: Theory, research, and treatment. American Psychological Association.
Gratz, K. L., & Roemer, L. (2004). Multidimensional assessment of emotion regulation and dysregulation: Development, factor structure, and initial validation of the difficulties in emotion regulation scale. Journal of Psychopathology and Behavioral Assessment, 26(1), 41–54.
Herman, J. (2016). Trauma and recovery: The aftermath of violence–from domestic abuse to political terror. Basic Books.
Kabat-Zinn, J. (2003). Mindfulness-based interventions in context: Past, present, and future. Clinical Psychology: Science and Practice, 10(2), 144-156.
Kets de Vries, M. (2011). The leadership mystique: Leading behavior in the human enterprise. European Management Journal, 29(1), 2-6.
Locke, E. A., & Latham, G. P. (2002). Building a practically useful theory of goal setting and task motivation: A 35-year odyssey. American Psychologist, 57(9), 705-717.
Neff, K. D. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2(3), 223–250.
Steel, P. (2007). The nature of procrastination: A meta-analytic and theoretical review of quintessential self-regulatory failure. Psychological Bulletin, 133(1), 65–94.
September 2024 - 8 minutes read
Kindness as the Cornerstone of Peace: A Sociological and Behavioural Perspective
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, September 17). Kindness as the Cornerstone of Peace: A Sociological and Behavioural Perspective. EBS Project - Charles The Son Holding. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Abstract
The concept of kindness, while often discussed in moral or spiritual terms, holds significant potential as a transformative tool for achieving peace on both individual and societal levels. This article explores the sociological and behavioral aspects of kindness, highlighting its role as a practical strategy in conflict resolution and peacebuilding. Drawing from interdisciplinary research, it will be demonstrated how kindness fosters trust, cooperation, and empathy, thereby contributing to peaceful social interactions and larger societal harmony.
Introduction
Peace, as both a concept and a goal, has been pursued throughout human history, often through legal frameworks, treaties, and conflict resolution mechanisms. However, the psychological and social dimensions underlying peace are equally important and cannot be overlooked. In this regard, kindness—characterised by acts of care, empathy, and altruism—emerges as a powerful tool in promoting peaceful relationships and societies. This article examines the dual role of kindness from both a sociological and behavioural standpoint, arguing that it is a key to fostering peace at multiple levels of human interaction.
A Walkthrough Sociological Aspects of Kindness
Initially, it is important to address the value brought by sociologists when defining social capital as the networks of relationships among people that enable society to function effectively. Acts of kindness, whether interpersonal or institutional, help build this social capital by fostering trust. When individuals show kindness toward one another, they create a culture of reciprocity and goodwill. As trust deepens within communities, conflicts are less likely to escalate into violence, and cooperation becomes more prevalent. In this way, kindness can be seen as a cornerstone of social harmony, reducing social tensions and fostering peaceful coexistence.
Furthermore, norms dictate the accepted and expected behaviour within societies, shaping individual actions (law systemic approach). When kindness is institutionalised as a social norm, it can lead to widespread behavioural shifts. For example, research has shown that communities that celebrate altruism and collective care tend to have lower rates of violence and crime. Norms around kindness help create a shared understanding of the importance of empathy and cooperation, which are essential for peaceful social dynamics.
Moreover, kindness can transform conflict-laden environments. Studies in post-conflict regions have shown that grassroots movements centered on kindness and forgiveness help communities recover and rebuild. This suggests that beyond formal peace agreements, social movements that promote kindness play a crucial role in sustaining long-term peace.
Additionally, kindness intersects with social justice, as it promotes equality and the dignity of all individuals. Societal peace is often disrupted by inequities and injustices. Kindness, particularly when expressed in the form of solidarity with marginalized groups, helps address the root causes of conflict by promoting inclusivity and fairness. Sociologists argue that societal peace is not merely the absence of war but the presence of justice and equity, conditions that are fostered by kindness-oriented movements and policies.
A Different Approach to Behavioural Aspects of Kindness
From a behavioural perspective, kindness is rooted in psychological mechanisms that promote prosocial behaviour. Research has consistently shown that engaging in acts of kindness releases neurochemicals such as oxytocin and dopamine, fostering feelings of happiness and contentment. These positive emotional states encourage further prosocial behaviors, creating a feedback loop that supports peaceful interactions.
Moreover, kindness reduces stress levels, which are often triggers for aggressive and violent behaviours. The "helper's high" that results from altruistic actions contributes to emotional regulation, allowing individuals to handle conflicts more calmly and empathetically. In environments where kindness is practiced consistently, individuals are less likely to resort to violence as a means of resolving disputes.
Within the same track, behavioural science highlights the role of empathy and compassion as key components of kindness that are crucial in conflict resolution. Empathy—the ability to understand and share the feelings of another—is essential for de-escalating conflicts and fostering peace. When individuals practice kindness by empathizing with others, they are more likely to engage in cooperative problem-solving rather than adversarial confrontation.
Compassion-based interventions have been applied successfully in conflict settings, promoting peace by encouraging individuals to consider the emotional and psychological needs of their opponents. For instance, compassion training programs have been implemented in various conflict zones to help individuals from opposing groups develop empathy and reduce hostility.
Last but not least, whether it is important to address the paper of organizations and institutions, which are actors and audience, getting benefited from fostering a culture of kindness. In workplaces, schools, and other organisational settings, kindness has been shown to increase cooperation, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being. Conflict resolution strategies that incorporate kindness encourage respectful communication, patience, and understanding. Behavioural studies suggest that when kindness becomes the norm in an organization, it leads to a more peaceful and productive environment.
This organisational dynamic can be extended to international relations, where nations that engage in diplomacy based on mutual respect and kindness are more likely to resolve disputes without resorting to violence.
Reflective Words
Kindness is more than a virtue; it is a practical and powerful tool for fostering peace, both on an interpersonal and societal level. From a sociological perspective, kindness builds social capital, creates prosocial norms, and promotes social justice, all of which are essential for maintaining peace. Behaviorally, kindness enhances psychological well-being, promotes empathy and compassion, and fosters cooperation in conflict resolution.
As the world grapples with increasing levels of conflict, inequality, and social division, it is clear that solutions based purely on legal or political means are insufficient. To build lasting peace, societies must embrace kindness as a core strategy, cultivating a culture where empathy, compassion, and cooperation are prioritized over aggression and competition.
Carlos I. Filho
References
Putnam, R. D. (2000). Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community. Simon & Schuster.
Zak, P. J. (2012). The Moral Molecule: The Source of Love and Prosperity. Penguin.
Rifkin, J. (2009). The Empathic Civilization: The Race to Global Consciousness in a World in Crisis. Penguin Group.
McCullough, M. E., & Snyder, C. R. (2000). Forgiveness: Theory, Research, and Practice. Guilford Press.
Twenge, J. M., & Baumeister, R. F. (2005). Social Exclusion and the Deconstructed State: Time, Meaning, and Violence. Psychological Science.
September 2024 - 7 minutes read
Corruption and Organized Crime and its Nefarious Result in Overpriced Housing Markets
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, September 10). Corruption and Organized Crime and its Nefarious Result in Overpriced Housing Markets. Charles The Son Holding - EBS Project. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Housing markets are essential components of national economies, often serving as indicators of financial health and societal well-being. However, in many regions worldwide, housing prices have spiralled beyond affordability for the average citizen. These inflated prices can be attributed to several economic factors, such as limited supply and increased demand, but a less-discussed aspect is the link between overpriced housing markets, corruption, and organized crime. This article examines how these illegal activities contribute to and benefit from inflated housing prices, revealing a darker side of the housing crisis.
The Housing Affordability Crisis
Many urban centers across the world are grappling with skyrocketing housing prices. Cities like London, New York, Sydney, and Hong Kong have seen exponential increases in property values, often far outpacing income growth. Housing markets are supposed to function on basic principles of supply and demand; however, the current price inflation in many areas is disproportionate to economic growth or population increases. Beyond typical economic forces, corruption and organized crime play significant roles in artificially inflating housing prices.
Money Laundering Through Real Estate
One of the clearest links between overpriced housing markets and organized crime is money laundering through real estate. Criminal organizations, seeking to legitimize large sums of illicit money, often turn to real estate markets because they provide an easy and relatively safe way to "clean" money. Buying property using criminal proceeds allows these organizations to hide the illicit origins of their wealth.
In many cases, luxury real estate markets are particularly vulnerable to money laundering. Properties worth millions of dollars can be bought with little scrutiny, as anti-money laundering (AML) regulations in real estate are often less stringent than in other sectors, such as banking. These purchases, usually in cash or through offshore shell companies, inflate housing prices because they artificially increase demand for high-end properties, driving up the prices not just for luxury homes but also for mid-range and affordable properties as market dynamics adjust.
The Role of Corruption
Corruption exacerbates the issue of overpriced housing markets. Corrupt officials may turn a blind eye to illicit real estate transactions or even facilitate them. In many countries, developers, real estate agents, and local authorities collaborate to bypass regulations that would normally prevent housing speculation or ensure affordable housing options.
For instance, in some developing countries, real estate developers bribe local officials to obtain permits to build luxury projects on land originally zoned for affordable housing or public use. This results in a skewed supply of high-end properties and an undersupply of affordable housing. Corruption at this level perpetuates an environment in which prices are artificially inflated by decisions made in favor of profit over public interest.
In certain cases, political figures themselves invest in real estate markets as part of their personal wealth-building strategy. By fostering an environment of inflated housing prices, they directly benefit from corruption and the market's artificial price surges.
Organised Crime's Stake in Real Estate
Organised crime syndicates, especially those involved in drug trafficking, arms dealing, and human trafficking, frequently use real estate as a means to launder their profits. This has a knock-on effect on housing prices. Criminal groups purchase large amounts of real estate, particularly in high-demand urban areas, and either leave these properties vacant or sell them at inflated prices. This drives up market prices overall, reducing the availability of affordable housing for law-abiding citizens.
In some regions, organised crime infiltrates construction and real estate development sectors. Criminal organisations may control parts of the building industry, engaging in bribery, extortion, or racketeering to manipulate housing markets. For example, in Italy, the Mafia has long been involved in construction projects, influencing the cost and availability of housing by monopolising certain projects or controlling the supply chain for building materials. Similar activities have been observed in Eastern European countries, where organized crime groups manipulate real estate markets to serve their interests.
The Impact on Society
The influence of corruption and organized crime on housing markets extends beyond economics—it affects society at large. As housing prices climb, gentrification occurs, displacing lower-income residents from their communities. In extreme cases, cities may see entire neighbourhoods hollowed out, with properties owned by absentee landlords who are more concerned with hiding illicit wealth than maintaining liveable homes.
This creates social tension, as access to affordable housing becomes increasingly limited, and the divide between the wealthy and the rest of the population widens. As cities become more expensive, essential workers, such as teachers, healthcare professionals, and first responders, struggle to live in the areas they serve, exacerbating inequality.
Combating the Issue
Addressing the link between overpriced housing markets, corruption, and organized crime requires a multi-faceted approach. Governments must implement stricter AML regulations for real estate transactions, particularly in high-end markets. This includes greater transparency around property ownership, including measures to disclose the true beneficiaries of offshore companies involved in real estate purchases.
Additionally, law enforcement agencies must cooperate internationally to track illicit financial flows and hold both criminal organizations and corrupt officials accountable. Policies that promote affordable housing, such as zoning regulations and taxes on vacant properties, can also help curb speculative real estate practices that contribute to housing price inflation.
Conclusion
The relationship between overpriced housing markets, corruption, and organized crime is complex but undeniable. Criminal organisations exploit the real estate sector to launder money, while corrupt officials may enable or even profit from inflated housing prices. The result is a housing market that increasingly excludes ordinary citizens, perpetuates inequality, and undermines social cohesion. To restore fairness and affordability to housing markets, governments and law enforcement agencies must work together to eliminate the illicit forces driving price inflation.
Carlos I. Filho
Relevant online resources:
Institute for Financial Integrity: https://finintegrity.org/real-estate-in-2024-anticipating-a-crackdown-on-corruption-fraud/
US transparency: https://us.transparency.org/resource/a-welcome-mat-for-corruption/
WeForum: https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2024/01/anti-corruption-initiative-real-estate-construction/
NATO: https://www.nato.int/nato_static_fl2014/assets/pdf/2020/7/pdf/200724-BI-GGG5-en.pdf
UK Transparency: https://www.transparency.org.uk/publications/corruption-on-your-doorstep
Bibliography:
International Consortium of Investigative Journalists (ICIJ). (2021, July 16). 'A Kleptocrat's dream': US real estate a safe haven for billions in dirty money, report says. ICIJ. https://www.icij.org
Transparency International. (2020, December 18). Doors wide open: Corruption and real estate in Australia, Canada, the United Kingdom, and the United States. Transparency.org. https://www.transparency.org
Realtor.com. (2025, January). Feds crack down on money laundering through real estate. Realtor.com. https://www.realtor.com
September 2024 - 5 minutes read
The Importance of Using Your Money to Create Memories with Loved Ones
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (n.d.). The Importance of Using Your Money to Create Memories with Loved Ones. EBS Project. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Foreword:
This article was inspired in both my mother and my brother as an examples of unity in my family, always striving to get everyone together and creating priceless memories of our lives.
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In the hustle and bustle of life, it's easy to get caught up in the pursuit of material wealth and possessions. Yet, as time passes, many people come to realize that the most valuable investments they make aren't in things—they are in experiences shared with loved ones. Using your money to create memories with the important people in your life not only strengthens relationships but also brings long-term happiness and fulfilment.
🖼️ "Memories last longer than material things" 🖼️
Material possessions can bring momentary satisfaction, but their value often fades over time. A new car, phone, or piece of furniture may bring excitement at first, but these objects tend to lose their significance as they age or are replaced. In contrast, the memories made while spending time with family and friends stay with you forever. Whether it's a weekend getaway, a dinner out, or even a simple day spent together, these moments remain vivid and meaningful.
Time spent with family and friends is invaluable. Creating special moments together not only builds a sense of closeness but also deepens your relationships. Whether it's taking a family vacation, celebrating holidays, or even just planning a day to try something new, these experiences form the foundation of the relationships we cherish most. 🛩️🥓🧑🏻🤝🧑🏻🏝️
Shared memories also help build trust, mutual understanding, and lasting bonds. In a world where distractions are plentiful and schedules are tight, making a conscious effort to spend quality time together is a way to express love, care, and commitment to those you hold dear.🤝🫶🥰
Prioritising What Truly Matters
One of the benefits of using your money to create memories is that it shifts your focus from accumulating things to prioritising meaningful connections. In today's consumer-driven society, it's easy to fall into the trap of wanting more "stuff." But experiences—whether a simple picnic or an extravagant vacation—remind us that the moments we spend together are what truly matter.🥪🧺
Investing in experiences also allows you to live in the present, embracing and enjoying life as it happens. These moments can bring a sense of joy and purpose that possessions rarely provide.
Creating Traditions and Stories to Pass On
Memories aren't just for the moment—they also become part of your family's story. The experiences you create today will be the stories you share tomorrow. Traditions such as annual family vacations, birthday celebrations, or special trips can be passed down to future generations, creating a legacy of love and connection.
These shared moments help shape the identity of a family or friend group, creating a sense of belonging and continuity. For children especially, these memories offer a sense of stability and joy, shaping their emotional development and sense of connection to their family.
"Memories play a crucial and valuable role when it comes to a retirement plan"
A Source of Comfort in Difficult Times
When life gets tough, memories of joyful times can be a source of comfort and strength. The recollection of a happy family gathering or a spontaneous adventure with a close friend can uplift your spirits during challenging moments. It's these experiences that remind you of the support system you have, reinforcing the importance of those relationships in your life.
In the end, the value of money lies not in how much you accumulate, but in how you use it. Investing in experiences with the people you love is one of the best ways to ensure that you live a fulfilling, connected, and meaningful life. These shared moments become the tapestry of your life, woven with laughter, love, and the joy of simply being together.
Carlos I. Filho
August 2024 - 5 minutes read
The Consciousness of Respecting Others to Achieve Self-Confidence
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, August 30). The Consciousness of Respecting Others to Achieve Self-Confidence. Charles The Son Holding. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Self-confidence is often viewed as a personal attribute, something that we develop internally through self-reflection, achievements, and positive self-talk. However, an essential but sometimes overlooked aspect of building self-confidence lies in how we treat others. Respecting others can significantly enhance our own sense of self-worth, creating a cycle of positivity that benefits both ourselves and those around us.
Respect and self-confidence are deeply interconnected. When we treat others with respect, we affirm their value as individuals, which, in turn, reinforces our own sense of integrity and self-respect. This outward expression of respect is a reflection of our inner confidence. By acknowledging and valuing others' perspectives, contributions, and feelings, we create an environment of mutual respect, which boosts our own confidence and well-being.
Respecting others involves more than just being polite; it means recognising their dignity, appreciating their differences, and valuing their contributions. When we practice this kind of respect, we move beyond self-centeredness and start to view ourselves as part of a larger, interconnected community. This shift in perspective can lead to a deeper sense of purpose and self-assurance.
How Respecting Others Builds Self-Confidence
Firstly, a respectful behaviour fosters positive interactions, which can lead to supportive relationships. These relationships provide us with encouragement and validation, both of which are crucial for building self-confidence. When we respect others, we are more likely to receive respect in return, creating a reciprocal dynamic that reinforces our self-worth.
In addition, we shall avoid, or at least reduce at our best any negative self-talk. It also means that disrespecting others often stems from our own insecurities or negative self-perceptions. When we belittle or dismiss others, it can reflect our internal struggles. However, by choosing to respect others, we consciously reject this negativity. This shift in behaviour can reduce our own negative self-talk, allowing us to focus on the positive aspects of ourselves and others.
Respect requires us to see things from others' perspectives, which strengthens our empathy. As we become more empathetic, we develop a deeper understanding of human experiences and emotions. This understanding can help us navigate social situations with greater ease, boosting our confidence in our ability to relate to and connect with others.
As a trend consequence, it fosters indeed a growth mindset. If we think about it, when we respect others, we are open to learning from them. This openness fosters a growth mindset, where we see challenges and failures as opportunities for learning rather than as threats to our self-esteem. A growth mindset encourages us to take risks, try new things, and ultimately build our confidence through experiences.
Lastly, a respectful attitude contributes to creating a supportive and positive environment, whether at work, in social circles, or within the family. In such environments, individuals feel valued and encouraged to express themselves freely. This support nurtures self-confidence, as people feel more secure in their identities and abilities.
Pay close attention when others speak. Show that you value their thoughts by listening without interrupting and responding thoughtfully. Active listening demonstrates respect and fosters deeper connections (👂🏻🗣️practice active listening🗣️👂🏻).
"Listen more and carefully, speak the trivial."
Embrace the diversity of perspectives and experiences around you. Recognize that everyone has something valuable to contribute, and that their differences enrich your understanding of the world (👫acknowledge differences👫).
Regularly express appreciation for others' efforts, achievements, and qualities. Compliments not only uplift others but also reinforce a positive and respectful mindset within yourself (💁♀️offer genuine compliments💁♀️).
Take time to reflect on how your actions and words affect others. Consider whether you are treating people with the respect they deserve and how this behaviour aligns with your own values and self-image (🔍🪞reflect on your actions🪞🔍).
"Treat others the way you expect to be treated."
Finally, while respecting others, it's also important to set personal boundaries. Communicate your needs clearly and assertively without diminishing others' rights. This balance between respecting others and yourself is key to maintaining healthy, confident relationships.
Respect as a Long-Term Path to Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is not solely an internal journey; it is profoundly influenced by how we interact with others. By consciously respecting those around us, we build a foundation of mutual respect that enhances our self-worth and confidence. This cycle of respect and confidence not only improves our relationships but also leads to a more fulfilling and empowered life. Embracing this approach can transform the way we see ourselves and our place in the world, leading to a more authentic and confident self.
Carlos I. Filho
Bibliography
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Lawrence-Lightfoot, S. (2000). Respect: An exploration. Basic Books.
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McLaren, K. (2013). The art of empathy: A complete guide to life's most essential skill. Sounds True.
Articles
Back, A. L., Arnold, R. M., & Tulsky, J. A. (2003). Empathy, respect, and dignity: Tools to improve the quality of the patient's experience. Journal of the American Medical Association, 289(3), 314-316. https://doi.org/10.1001/jama.289.3.314
Dillon, R. S. (1992). Self-respect and the respect of others. Ethics, 102(3), 515-531. https://doi.org/10.1086/293422
Neff, K. (2003). The role of self-compassion in development: A healthier way to relate to oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85-101. https://doi.org/10.1080/15298860309032
Bednar, R. L. (1987). Respect and positive regard: The core of helping relationships. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 34(1), 123-130. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-0167.34.1.123
Holland, J. L. (1985). Empathy and respect in human relationships. American Psychologist, 40(10), 1107-1108. https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066X.40.10.1107
August 2024 - 4 minutes read
Burnout Symptoms and the Importance of Taking Breaks in Our Work Routine
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, August 7). Burnout Symptoms and the Importance of Taking Breaks in Our Work Routine. EBS Project - CTS Holding. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
In today's fast-paced work environment, burnout has become a common issue affecting many professionals across various industries. Understanding the symptoms of burnout and the importance of incorporating regular breaks into our work routine is essential for maintaining both physical and mental health.
Recognising Burnout Symptoms
Burnout is more than just feeling tired after a long day. It is a state of chronic physical and emotional exhaustion caused by prolonged stress. Key symptoms include:
1. 😌 Emotional Exhaustion 😌: Feeling drained and unable to cope, often accompanied by a sense of dread about work.
2. 😤 Depersonalisation 😤: Developing a cynical attitude towards work and colleagues, leading to a sense of detachment and lack of empathy.
3. 😴 Reduced Performance 😴: Struggling to concentrate, feeling a lack of accomplishment, and decreased productivity.
4. 🥵 Continuously Illness 🥵: Constantly getting sick or feeling pains, including headache, this a huge sign that your body needs a rest moment.
As said above, burnout can also manifest physically, with symptoms like headaches, stomach issues, and changes in sleep patterns. These symptoms not only affect work performance but also personal well-being and relationships.
The Importance of Taking Breaks
Taking regular breaks in daily basis and long holidays sometimes are a crucial strategy in combating burnout. Here are some reasons why incorporating short and long breaks into your work-life balance routine are beneficial:
1. Enhanced Productivity: Short breaks throughout the day can increase focus and productivity. According to research, taking a 5-10 minute break every hour can improve mental clarity and prevent fatigue .
2. Stress Reduction: Breaks provide an opportunity to step away from work-related stressors. Activities such as walking, stretching, or even a brief meditation can significantly reduce stress levels and improve overall mood .
3. Improved Mental Health: Regular breaks help in maintaining mental health by giving the brain time to rest and recharge. This is particularly important for tasks requiring high levels of cognitive function and creativity .
4. Physical Health Benefits: Sitting for long periods can lead to various health issues, including back pain and cardiovascular problems. Breaks encourage movement, which is essential for physical health .
1. Schedule Breaks: Plan short breaks into your daily schedule. Use tools like the Pomodoro Technique, which involves working for 25 minutes and then taking a 5-minute break .
2. Active Breaks: Use break time to engage in physical activity. Simple exercises, stretching, or a quick walk can rejuvenate both body and mind.
3. Disconnect: During breaks, try to disconnect from work completely. Avoid checking emails or thinking about work tasks. Use this time to relax and engage in activities you enjoy.
4. Mindfulness Practices: Incorporate mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing exercises into your breaks. These can help in reducing stress and improving focus.
5. Hydration and Nutrition: Use breaks to hydrate and have a healthy snack. Proper nutrition and hydration are vital for maintaining energy levels throughout the day.
6. Planning long trips in advance helps beat your potential stress, experience the trip before you go. Vacations are the best investment you can make for your body. It really means all the hard work has paid off.
Conclusion
Recognizing the symptoms of burnout and taking proactive steps to incorporate regular breaks into your work routine can significantly enhance your well-being and productivity. By prioritising your mental and physical health, you can prevent burnout and maintain a healthier, more balanced work life.
Carlos I. Filho
Some useful online resoruces:
1. Study on productivity and breaks: [Productivity and Focus](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3625195/)
2. Stress reduction through breaks: [Stress and Breaks](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5353712/)
3. Mental health and breaks: [Breaks for Mental Health](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4881702/)
4. Physical health benefits of breaks: [Physical Activity and Health](https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7086753/)
5. Pomodoro Technique: [Pomodoro](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pomodoro_Technique)
July 2024 - 4 minutes read
Consumer Awareness in the Digital World
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, July 31). Consumer Awareness in the Digital World. EBS Project - Charles The Son Holding. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
"A successful mindset depends on your daily decisions... and the opposite is true either"
In today's digital age, the landscape of consumer behavior and awareness has been fundamentally transformed. With the vast expanse of information available online, consumers are more empowered than ever to make informed decisions. However, this digital abundance also presents challenges. Navigating the digital marketplace requires a keen understanding of how to discern credible information, protect personal data, and recognise the influence of digital marketing strategies. Here's a closer look at the key aspects of consumer awareness in the digital world.
🔑 Access to Information 🔑
The internet provides consumers with unparalleled access to information. From product reviews and price comparisons to detailed specifications and user feedback, consumers can thoroughly research before making a purchase. Websites like Amazon, Yelp, and various product review platforms offer valuable insights from other consumers, helping potential buyers make well-informed decisions.
🛟 Tip for Consumers 🛟: Always cross-reference information from multiple sources to ensure its accuracy. Look for reviews on independent websites, and be cautious of overly positive or negative reviews that may be biased or fake.
⌨️ Digital Marketing and Advertising ⌨️
Digital marketing has evolved into a sophisticated field, employing targeted ads, influencer partnerships, and personalised content to influence consumer behaviour. While these strategies can enhance the shopping experience by catering to individual preferences, they also raise concerns about consumer manipulation and privacy.
🛟 Tip for Consumers 🛟: Be aware of how algorithms and targeted advertising work. Understand that ads are tailored based on your browsing history, social media interactions, and even your geographic location. Use ad blockers if you prefer to limit exposure to targeted ads and regularly review privacy settings on social media platforms.
🔒 Data Privacy and Security 🔒
In the digital age, personal data is a valuable commodity. Consumers often share personal information online, sometimes unknowingly, which can be used for various purposes, including marketing, data mining, and even identity theft. Protecting personal information has become a critical aspect of digital consumer awareness.
🛟 Tip for Consumers 🛟: Protect your personal information by using strong, unique passwords for different accounts and enabling two-factor authentication where possible. Be cautious when sharing personal details online and regularly monitor your accounts for suspicious activity. Familiarize yourself with privacy policies of websites and services you use.
The digital world is rife with scams and fraudulent schemes designed to deceive consumers. From phishing emails and fake websites to social media scams and counterfeit products, the threats are diverse and sophisticated.
🛟 Tip for Consumers 🛟: Stay vigilant against scams by verifying the authenticity of websites before making purchases. Look for secure payment methods and be wary of deals that seem too good to be true. Educate yourself about common online scams and regularly update your knowledge to recognise new threats.
*** Report phishing scams at FTC Website.
Consumer Rights and Protections
Understanding consumer rights is crucial in the digital marketplace. Various laws and regulations are designed to protect consumers from unfair practices, ensure product safety, and guarantee the right to information and redress.
🛟 Tip for Consumers 🛟: Familiarize yourself with consumer protection laws in your region. Know your rights regarding returns, refunds, and warranties. Utilize resources such as consumer protection agencies and online dispute resolution platforms if you encounter issues with digital transactions.
Ethical Consumerism
The digital age has also seen a rise in ethical consumerism, where consumers consider the ethical implications of their purchases. This includes factors such as environmental impact, labor practices, and corporate social responsibility.
🛟 Tip for Consumers 🛟: Research companies and products to understand their ethical practices. Support businesses that prioritize sustainability, fair trade, and ethical labor practices. Use tools and apps that provide information on the ethical standards of brands and products.
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🦺 Play on safe side! 🦺
Consumer awareness in the digital world is a dynamic and ongoing process. With the rapid pace of technological advancement and the ever-evolving digital marketplace, staying informed and vigilant is essential. By leveraging the vast array of information available online, protecting personal data, recognising digital marketing tactics, and understanding consumer rights, individuals can navigate the digital landscape with confidence and make informed, responsible choices.
Carlos I Filho
July 2024 - 3 minutes read
Finding the Right Concentration to Study and Learn Efficiently
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, July 22). Finding the Right Concentration to Study and Learn Efficiently. EBS Project. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Achieving the right concentration while studying can significantly enhance your learning efficiency and overall productivity. Here's a guide to help you find and maintain that perfect focus.
📖 Create a Dedicated Study Environment 📖
Your environment plays a crucial role in your ability to concentrate. Designate a specific area for studying that's free from distractions. Ensure this space is comfortable, well-lit, and equipped with all the necessary materials. A clutter-free, organized space can reduce mental distractions and help you stay focused.
🗒️ Set Clear Goals and Prioritize Tasks 🗒️
Before you start studying, outline clear, achievable goals. Break down your study sessions into manageable tasks (minor steps for bigger jumps!), and prioritise them. This approach not only gives you a sense of direction but also prevents you from feeling overwhelmed. Use techniques like the Pomodoro Technique 🤓, where you work for 25 minutes and take a 5-minute break, to maintain high levels of concentration. Specially in my case, I would recommend 1:30h concentrated with 15 min break.
📵 Minimize Digital Distractions 📵
In our digitally connected world, notifications and social media can be significant distractions. Turn off notifications on your devices, or use apps that block social media and other distracting websites during study periods. Consider using tools like "Focus@Will" or "Forest" to help you stay on track.
🧠 Incorporate Active Learning Techniques 🧠
Active learning techniques, such as summarising information in your own words, teaching what you've learned to someone else, or engaging in discussions, can help maintain concentration and deepen understanding. Passive reading or highlighting is often less effective than these active approaches.
🤸🏻♂️ Mind Your Physical Health 🤸🏻♂️
Your physical well-being directly impacts your ability to concentrate. Ensure you're getting adequate sleep, as fatigue can significantly impair focus. Stay hydrated and maintain a balanced diet to keep your brain functioning optimally. Regular physical exercise can also boost concentration by improving blood flow to the brain and reducing stress levels.
🧘🏼♀️ Practice Mindfulness and Meditation 🧘🏼♀️
Mindfulness and meditation practices can enhance your ability to concentrate by training your brain to stay focused. Even a few minutes of mindfulness exercises daily can improve attention span and cognitive flexibility. Apps like "Headspace" or "Calm" offer guided sessions that can be easily integrated into your routine.
🎵 Use Music and Ambient Sounds Wisely 🎵
For some, music or ambient sounds can aid concentration. Classical music or nature sounds are often recommended for their calming effects. However, if you find music distracting, opt for white noise or silence. Experiment to find what works best for you. In addition to that advice, by having a good speaker/earphone also improves que quality of environment sound involvement, which gives you a better work/ study experience!
🛑 Take Regular Breaks 🛑
Continuous studying without breaks can lead to mental fatigue and reduced productivity. Short, regular breaks can refresh your mind and improve overall concentration. During these breaks, engage in activities that relax you, such as stretching, walking, or deep breathing exercises.
🕊️ Stay Consistent and Patient 🕊️
Developing strong concentration skills takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself and stay consistent with your efforts. Regularly review and adjust your strategies to find what works best for you. Remember that it's normal to have off days, and persistence is key to long-term success.
By creating a conducive study environment, setting clear goals, minimizing distractions, and taking care of your physical and mental well-being, you can significantly improve your concentration and study efficiency. Implement these strategies and tailor them to fit your unique needs and preferences for optimal results.
Carlos I. Filho
July 2024 - 3 minutes read
How Starting the Week in a Good Mood Can Boost Your Work Performance
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, July 15). How Starting the Week in a Good Mood Can Boost Your Work Performance. Charles The Son. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
Mondays often get a bad rap. The start of the workweek can feel daunting, especially after a restful weekend. However, beginning your week in a positive frame of mind can have a profound impact on your productivity and overall work performance. Here's how a good mood on Monday can set the tone for success.
✅ Enhanced Focus and Efficiency
A positive mood has been linked to improved cognitive functions, including enhanced focus and problem-solving skills. When you start the week feeling good, you're more likely to approach tasks with clarity and precision. This mental clarity helps in prioritizing tasks effectively and managing time efficiently, leading to a more productive workday.
✅ Increased Motivation and Engagement
A good mood fosters motivation. When you're in high spirits, you're more inclined to tackle challenges head-on and set ambitious goals. This intrinsic motivation drives you to engage more deeply with your work, increasing the quality and quantity of your output. Engaged employees are also more likely to take initiative and contribute innovative ideas, benefiting the entire team.
✅ Better Interpersonal Relationships
Workplaces thrive on collaboration and communication. A positive attitude enhances your ability to interact harmoniously with colleagues. When you're in a good mood, you're more approachable, empathetic, and cooperative. This positive energy can be contagious, fostering a supportive and collaborative work environment. Strong workplace relationships lead to better teamwork and can significantly boost collective productivity.
✅ Stress Reduction
Starting the week on a positive note can help mitigate stress. Stress is a major productivity killer, often leading to burnout and decreased work quality. A good mood helps build resilience against stress, allowing you to handle pressure more effectively. With lower stress levels, you're more likely to maintain consistent performance and avoid the pitfalls of work-related anxiety.
✅ Boosted Creativity
Creativity thrives in a positive mental state. When you're happy, your brain is more likely to make novel connections and think outside the box. This creative thinking is essential for problem-solving and innovation. Whether you're developing a new marketing strategy or brainstorming solutions to a complex issue, a good mood can be the catalyst for groundbreaking ideas.
💬 Tips to Start Your Week in a Good Mood 😁
1. Prepare on Sunday: Take some time on Sunday evening to plan your week. A well-organised schedule can reduce Monday morning anxiety and give you a clear starting point.
2. Get Enough Sleep: A restful night's sleep is crucial for a positive mood. Ensure you get 7-9 hours of sleep to wake up refreshed and ready to tackle the day.
3. Exercise: Physical activity releases endorphins, which are natural mood lifters. A morning workout can set a positive tone for the day.
4. Healthy Breakfast: A nutritious breakfast fuels your body and brain, providing the energy needed to stay focused and positive.
5. Positive Affirmations: Start your day with positive affirmations or a brief mindfulness session. This practice can help center your thoughts and foster a positive outlook.
6. Enjoyable Morning Routine: Engage in activities that make you happy, whether it's listening to your favourite music, reading, or a hobby you enjoy.
By consciously fostering a good mood at the start of the week, you can set a positive tone that influences your performance and well-being throughout the entire week. Embrace Monday with positivity, and watch as your productivity and job satisfaction soar.
Carlos I. Filho
July 2024 - 3 minutes read
The Impact of Liberal and Free Market Principles on Education in Society
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, July 11). The Impact of Liberal and Free Market Principles on Education in Society. Charles The Son. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
In the context of education, liberal and free market principles have become increasingly influential, shaping policies and practices in significant ways. Both ideologies emphasise different aspects of freedom and efficiency, and their integration into educational systems can produce diverse outcomes.
The mislead belief on free choice and fair competition...
One of the core tenets of the free market is the belief in choice and competition. Applied to education, this translates into a broader range of options for students and parents. Private schools, charter schools, and voucher programs have emerged as alternatives to traditional public schools, providing families with the power to choose educational institutions that best meet their needs and preferences. This competition is intended to drive schools to improve quality, innovate, and respond more effectively to the demands of students and parents.
If in one hand the liberal economies had increased the competition in the markets, it fostered also a narrowing on options to access services and products, overall based in people's economic power.
As an element of efficiency and innovation, free market principles advocate for the efficient allocation of resources and the elimination of waste. In education, this can lead to more efficient use of funding and resources (in theory), as schools strive to offer the best education at the lowest cost to attract students. Additionally, competition encourages innovation. Schools experiment with new teaching methods, curricula, and technologies to differentiate themselves and improve educational outcomes. For instance, the integration of digital learning tools and personalized learning plans are innovations spurred by market competition.
The newly arrived access and equity challenges...
As above-mentioned, while liberal and free market approaches can drive improvements, they also present challenges, particularly regarding access and equity. Critics argue that an emphasis on choice can exacerbate inequalities, as families with more resources are better positioned to take advantage of educational options. Wealthier families can afford private schools or move to areas with better public schools, while lower-income families may have fewer choices, potentially widening the educational achievement gap.
When it comes to the accountability and quality assurance, liberal education policies often emphasise individual freedom and autonomy, promoting decentralised decision-making and less government intervention. This can empower schools and educators to tailor their programs to local needs and contexts. However, without strong accountability measures, there is a risk that some schools may not meet educational standards. To mitigate this, many advocate for balanced approaches that combine school autonomy with rigorous accountability frameworks to ensure all students receive a high-quality education.
Public policies and institutions must ensure the accountability by the private initiative above all.
As an important and singular outcome, the rise of liberal and free market policies can also impact traditional public education systems. Increased competition from private and charter schools can lead to funding challenges for public schools, which rely heavily on government budgets. As funds are redirected to support vouchers or charter schools, public schools may face financial constraints, potentially affecting their ability to provide quality education. This dynamic often sparks debates about the best way to balance support for diverse educational options while ensuring a robust public education system.
As a preliminary outcome, the integration of liberal and free market principles into education brings both opportunities and challenges. While these approaches can drive improvements in quality, efficiency, and innovation, they also require careful consideration of issues related to access, equity, and accountability. Ultimately, finding a balanced approach that leverages the strengths of these ideologies while addressing their shortcomings is essential for fostering an educational system that benefits all members of society.
Carlos Imbrosio Filho
July 2024 - 3 minutes read
How Your Professional Career Affects Your Mental Health and Wellness
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, July 10). How Your Professional Career Affects Your Mental Health and Wellness. Charles The Son. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
In today's fast-paced world, the professional career has become a significant determinant of our overall mental health and wellness. While a fulfilling career can provide a sense of purpose, financial stability, and personal satisfaction, it can also be a source of stress, anxiety, and burnout if not managed properly. Understanding the various ways in which our careers impact our mental health is crucial for fostering a balanced and healthy lifestyle.
The Positive Impacts
1. Sense of Achievement and Purpose: A career that aligns with your passions and skills can offer a profound sense of achievement. Meeting professional goals, receiving recognition for hard work, and contributing to a team or organization can boost self-esteem and provide a sense of purpose.
2. Financial Security: Stable employment provides financial security, which is fundamental to mental well-being. Knowing that you can support yourself and your family reduces stress and anxiety related to economic uncertainties.
3. Social Connections: Workplaces are often social environments where we build relationships with colleagues. These connections can offer emotional support, companionship, and a sense of community, which are essential for mental health.
The Negative Impacts
1. Stress and Burnout: One of the most significant negative impacts of a professional career is stress. High workloads, tight deadlines, and long working hours can lead to chronic stress, which, if not managed, can result in burnout. Burnout is characterized by physical and emotional exhaustion, reduced performance, and a feeling of detachment from work.
2. Work-Life Imbalance: The demands of a career can sometimes overshadow personal life, leading to a work-life imbalance. This imbalance can strain personal relationships, reduce time for hobbies and relaxation, and ultimately lead to mental health issues such as anxiety and depression.
3. Job Insecurity: In today's volatile job market, job insecurity is a common issue. The fear of losing one's job or not meeting performance expectations can create constant anxiety and stress, significantly impacting mental health.
Strategies for Maintaining Mental Wellness
1. Set Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries between work and personal life. This can include setting specific work hours and ensuring that work-related tasks do not spill over into personal time.
2. Practice Self-Care: Engage in activities that promote relaxation and well-being, such as exercise, hobbies, and spending time with loved ones. Regular breaks during the workday are also essential for maintaining mental health.
3. Seek Support: Don't hesitate to seek support when needed. This can be through talking to a trusted colleague, seeking professional help from a therapist, or utilizing employee assistance programs offered by many organizations.
4. Develop Coping Mechanisms: Learn and apply effective stress management techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, and time management skills. These can help you manage the pressures of your career more effectively.
5. Pursue a Balanced Career: If possible, choose a career that not only fulfills your financial needs but also aligns with your interests and values. A balanced career that resonates with your personal goals can significantly enhance your overall well-being.
Conclusion
A professional career can have a profound impact on your mental health and wellness. By recognizing both the positive and negative aspects and implementing strategies to manage stress and maintain balance, you can navigate your career in a way that supports your mental well-being. Remember, while a career is an important part of life, maintaining mental health and wellness should always be a top priority.
Carlos Imbrosio Filho
March 2024 - 3 minutes read
Short Tales I - First Day at School: Journey of Self-Knowledge (Tale Collection)
Discover more about yourself by relating with past events in your life such as the first school day which mixes emotions, challenges never seen before.
Bruno is a boy who is expecting you to share his life experiences, and maybe, any coincidence is just a perchance!
APA full citation: Filho, C. I. (2024, March 15). First Day at School: Journey of Self-Knowledge (Tale Collection). Charles The Son. https://www.charlestheson.com/society/
It was six in the morning and Bruno, still with his face scarred from the pillow, and obviously from a bad night's sleep due to the challenges that permeated his mind, struggled to get out of bed, encouraged by his father, who asked him in a subtle way, however imposing, regarding his duty to be ready for the first class day at school.
It was clear that Bruno didn't have much of a choice. His parents understood that it was time for the child to start his academic journey. They chose the school based on some factors that they considered to be important, such as: proximity to residence, cost of tuition fees, friendly school environment, qualification of the teaching staff, affinity for the recommendation of their neighbours and close friends.
Regardless of what they thought was really necessary for Bruno to face his first day of school, the parents also chose - within their financial capabilities - a beautiful backpack with the boy's favourite superhero, as well as mechanical pencils and a beautiful matching pencil case, everything to tame that hostile and unknown environment until then.
No matter how much his parents explained what was about to happen, Bruno would live that moment as if he had never heard of it before. It is a great challenge for the child, and therefore a defining fact in his life.
His parents finish preparing his meal and adjusted his school uniform so that it leaves him impeccable, away from that slovenly appearance characteristic of his age, just as a father or mother who loves their child would do.
The way to school is always that most tense moment, since, for the first time, Bruno was forced to wake up early, following rules never seen before, but a bit weird and with no apparent reason.
His glance at the car's window as they approached the school confirms everything, children crying as they leave their parents. The look of sadness and anguish on the faces of parents leaving their children makes it clear to Bruno that that moment will be challenging!
His mother says:
Calm down little boy, today is your first day at school, but mommy will be attentive if you need anything. You need to be with people you don't know, but I'm sure they will take care of you with great affection and appreciation.
His father asks:
"Where's my Brunão?, who is the bravest hero when wearing the cape of your favourite superhero? I want to know where that fortress is, boy!?
Bruno feels butterflies in his stomach and starts crying, after all the children, or at least most of the children there, did the same.
At that moment, Bruno began to realize that life was not limited to his own house, apparently safe in his harbour, with the support of his parents and all the comfort of his grandparents and closest relatives.
Soon, when he leaves his father's arms, Bruno notices his distance as the teacher takes him through the gate. The boy looks back with swollen eyes, but now without hope he can only sob in front of the teacher, who tries her best to calm him down.
That day is so stressful that Bruno is unable to have lunch other than his homemade food, and slept right after lunch for a few moments, such is the mental exhaustion due to the abrupt departure from his comfort zone.
On this first day he realizes many things, including that his friends at school also have many similarities and differences in terms of tastes and preferences. The school teaches Bruno that he must complete tasks during class and after, as well as how he has rules for treating his classmates and how to behave towards the teacher (the highest authority in the classroom).
Bruno understands that crying does not offer a solution to his problem, and that obeying the rules makes the path easier and more comfortable. Around seven o'clock in the afternoon, his parents returned and met him at the gate, accompanied by the teacher. The feeling of relief is unquestionable in his eyes when he meets his parents again and goes into a strong and warm hug.
Life teaches Bruno that many of these moments, such as meetings and departures, the feeling of longing, the discomfort of facing the unknown, will be, not only necessary but expected phases and will increasingly becoming very common in his life.
On the other hand, the importance of school in Bruno's life is unquestionable, as it will include him in a new social and cultural circle, where he will probably create new friendships, learn and teach people, and have the opportunity to grow as a human being.
Learning in life is never too much, and Bruno is now part of this select group of people who have this opportunity.
Carlos Imbrosio Filho